Easier to answer this question in the older days…but not any more.
Had Workplace Law exam on Wed night (7-10pm). Result for assessment (the first 50%) was released on the same day, so thought should go see result first then decide how pia i should be for the exam. Scored 44/50, so rightfully only needed another 12/100 marks to pass. So jokingly I told my course mates that we should just do 1/3 questions and go home early. We ended up using the full 3 hours + 10 minutes reading time cos thought should take the chance to score distinction to decorate our result slip…
While waiting for permission to leave the exam hall, des messaged me and asked if i was on the way home cos she had some maths sums for me to do (me do her maths sum? i study or she study? chey…actually she meant needed me to teach her). Told her to get dad to teach, she said dad rather worked on her craft than to teach maths!!!! It was almost 10:30pm then. by the time i reached home would be close to 11:30pm. told her to go to sleep and i would teach her the next morning. she decided that her alarm clock should go off at 5:30am the next day. poor gal but glad that she has the sense of urgency.
If you can remember, i’ve been having this headache for a couple of days cos of stuffy weather and late nites. Juz when I was glad that the exam’s finally over, i had this to contend with…wtf….
Fair enough, dear hubby fetched me from the train station. But still buay kam wan, asked him how come he couldn’t help des with maths. He simply claimed that the teaching methods nowadays are different, so dunno how to teach. Worse still, he blamed and wanted to complain to the teacher for giving homework since they went for excursion (road safety park) in the afternoon. pointed out to him that the issue was not with no time (she had the whole evening/night) but rather no parents were around to coach. Must change his surname to Lai…. :<
Went through Des’ worksheet on ratio, actually could solve the problems but referred to her textbook to see if they are using other solving method. while going through her textbook, hubby asked jokingly “u also dunno how to do ah??”. Walau, couldn’t help still gave me this kind of crap….boil man… Finally went to sleep at 1+am. then woke up at 5 the next morning.
Juz don’t understand why men can take it so easily…this is not sexist remarks but a lot of female colleagues/frens oso face the same problem…of course lah, they’re not the universe…but hor, still true lor…
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April 28, 2007 at 2:26 pm
Venus vs Mars
Is it only man feel tired and woman won’t?
Is it only man want to rest on weekends and woman won’t?
It is only woman who got PMS that man definitely won’t.
May 2, 2007 at 12:46 am
strongstrong
Man usually very chin chai. Woman are generally not.
Its because of this nature, it also applies to the second point because woman will not stand certain things and thereby, sacrificing their rest.
The third point, biologically, its true. Man don’t have PMS because they don’t have the M. In an abstract sense, all beings have PMS, depending on how and what triggers it. I have my PMS when I am stressed or pissed off. So it all depends.
May 2, 2007 at 12:51 am
strongstrong
Being a man is easy. Being a woman is easy. Understanding the opposite sex is the tough part. So there is no easy way out but communicate. Without communication, 1 party will think its tough because its really very rare to have 2 parties fit like a jigsaw puzzle one. Easier said than done. So the next best alternative is REN4 !!!
May 2, 2007 at 1:22 am
LubbishBin
Ytd, had a chit-chat with Ashley’s violin teacher’s dad who is a Bizman fr PRC. He told us tt in Shanghai both Husband & Wife work, and the H has to support the fmy while the W gets to keep her own $$ & support her parents oni. Other than this, H will oso do household chores for his W. Why??? Both H & W work, and of course both r tired. However, generally man got more energy or stronger physique than woman, so the H will do the household chores. Yeaaaaaaaaaaah!!!
I tink tt things r far beyond than jus communication; talked, screamed, cried so many times liao, oso no use … things will jus revert & it’s a cycle. Be automatic lah … … we call it HOME wat, it takes the whole fmy to build.
May 2, 2007 at 8:39 pm
rolypoly
During lunchtime talk today, one of my single male colleagues reckoned that women juz want their men to hear them talk, as long as u let them talk, then u r safe, no need to register the content. The other female colleagues bombarded him, cos women not only want men to hear, but LISTEN too. My boss concurred as he had learnt the hard way..haha..but at least he learns.
To be fair, after I take up the degree course, Ronald has been helping out in one way or another, which I am very appreciative. In return, I have also tried to close one eye on sub-standard “errands” and try to make up as much as possible during break, like home-cooked meals, etc. Guess, this is wat u call man and wife lor, bo bian…
May 2, 2007 at 11:31 pm
strongstrong
To LubbishBin: PRC is a crazy place, don’t go there with senior MAN !! Since when is the equality thing forgotten huh ? What man have strong physique than woman and therefore have to do household chores huh ? You mean mob the floor also need six pack and huge biceps to do that meh ? Aiyoh, argument very weak. Not accepted. Heee … I only agree with the last sentence, hee, that is it takes the whole family to build. Husband and wife. If talking won’t work, something is wrong lor. Because either 1 party is not listening, or 1 party is not talking sense. How is it possible to not have communication between husband and wife ?
To Roly: Glad that you are appreciative. Sometimes, I suppose you need to have some form of recognition for such appreciation ? You can say you appreciate in your heart. But when you don’t tell it or say it, it might be misunderstood that your hubby is taken for granted lor. Or rather that is what I feel when I don’t have some form of recognition. It can be verbal or it can be an action. Just tell me. I also kam guan. Dunno about Ron, but that is generally how I felt. Don’t really represent man’s stand. Maybe must ask senior man ..heeee .. FYI, guys suck at running errands. I admit to that. Its not they are lazy, its just that they are not meticulous (if I had spelt it correctly). Not finding an excuse for Ron, maybe he really plain lazy. Only Roly knows.
Until today, I still don’t understand why there is such a huge difference between life before marriage and life after marriage ?
May 3, 2007 at 12:31 am
rolypoly
no 1 – if got a man with 6-pack mopping the floor will be an eye candy for the wife…but too bad, most of us have beer bellies to look at….
no 2 – didn’t i say that i make up by cooking (my cooking got some standard one ok?) My man will freak out lor if i say mushy things to him. anyway, i will tell your dear wife you need some verbal recognition. want plaque or not huh?
May 3, 2007 at 2:07 am
LubbishBin
Oh, I nvr tink tt there’s equality, bcos it doesn’t exist and oso dun hv to exist. Generally, man does hv stronger physique than woman, and we dun need our men to hv six-pack to mob flr … oh, is tt the reason y man won’t help out, ‘cos majority doesn’t hv six-pack??!!! Hahahahaha. Not oni talking abt household chores, there r other things like teaching, playing & communicating with kids, switching off lights after use, bringing dirty clothes to the laundry bag, etc.
A leopard doesn’t change its spots, so things will revert after some time, and then it calls for another comm again. Communication is an art, and other than comm, being understanding and appreciating oso impt. If man needed tt, so does woman … did u say tt to yr wife everyday or oni on Valentine’s Day (oh yah, i rem yr V day and Roly’s V day … hehehehe).
It takes a hell lots of intangible things to manage our HOME.
Before marriage, u are self; after marriage u are whole.
May 3, 2007 at 2:17 am
mummydear
Oh, Snr Man vy nice, bot fried chicken wings for my dinner. I was rushing to meet IRAS’ deadline b4 our holiday, so asked him to bring the kids to MIL’s place to makan, so tt I hd quiet moments to balance the sh**.
The chicken wings … eat in the mouth, happiness in the heart … hehehehe, vy mushy, hahahahaha!
May 4, 2007 at 8:34 am
GC
Luckily didn’t listen to Ashley and bought the Za2 Cai4 Fan4. I think can trust her to be our fashion consultant only.
May 5, 2007 at 12:48 am
jy
haha… wah.. Ashley so young oredi consultant liao… hehe
speakin a bt ashley… she didn’t update her blog 1!!
May 6, 2007 at 10:21 pm
On Behalf of Ashley
Her computer has been down for a long long time. Snr Man said gg to fix another PC for her but till now only NATO (no action, talk only). I encourage her to blog cos it’ll help her to organise her thots and express herself. Jus wait lor for the busy MAN to execute his promise lor.
May 7, 2007 at 4:07 pm
jy
haha… wah… so gt her own computer ar?!
tt time she oso tell me her com spoil… veri long liao.. since jan.. now may lor…
May 8, 2007 at 11:24 am
GC
Need to earn more money so got more $$ to spent during holiday mah.
May 8, 2007 at 11:11 pm
jy
haha… excuses?!
May 10, 2007 at 9:28 am
GC
I think you’re right, it’s an excuse for not giving enough priority to this task in my schedule.